I’m married with 2 children, who currently do not live at home. I guess having watched my mother do all the domestic chores, that it was my role to do the same. I never questioned it. So once I set up home at the age of 22/23 with my then to be husband I took on the majority of the jobs. At time I have felt quite consumed with it, especially when I had two small children and going back to work.
Over the years I have got my husband to help me more and on a regular basis. He would not be able to initiate it or he would not know what needs to be done, but excepts guidance. Most of the jobs I hate doing and always feel that once they are done they do not last and have to be repeated several days later. Recently I employed a cleaner, which I absolutely love. Though due to lockdown she has not been able to come.( interestingly most cleaners are female. ) My husband and I have fallen into doing certain jobs. I have heard my colleague talk about blue jobs and pink jobs. Blue jobs = empty the rubbish / put out the rubbish / load the dishwasher. Pink jobs = washing / ironing / dusting / hoovering / shopping and cooking. Hope this is helpful, if you need any more info please contact me.