Who Does the Hoovering? The Importance of Housework

I first started thinking about the importance of housework about two years ago at a conference whose theme was thinking about the future work – one of the keynote speakers discussed how technology was changing how we think about work and what it means and yet throughout his talk he never once mentioned housework – which seemed odd and yet also unsurprising considering how little we discuss looking after the house in the context of work.

I started to think more and more about how we divide up labour within households. More often than not, women do the majority of the housework – not just the cooking and the cleaning, but the household management as well: organising the kids activities and homework, managing the family diary and doing all the organisational and administrative labour that goes into making sure that lunches are packed, food is bought and childcare is arranged. Recently, The Guardian reported that women academics were suddenly submitting far fewer research papers since the coronavirus outbreak, while men were submitting much more[1]. It seems that, in lockdown, women are somehow saddled with more domestic responsibilities while men, somehow, have fewer.

Because we often don’t often talk about domestic work (and how to divide it up fairly) it often ends up being done, almost behind the scenes, by women. Men aren’t expected to do housework the way women are – we don’t tend to buy toy kitchen sets and baby dolls for little boys. Women still tend to be thought of as natural multi-taskers, hard-wired for housework – a series of jobs which amount to a complex cocktail of administration, manual labour and leadership responsibilities: as illustrated wonderfully by the French comic artist, Emma, with her comic “The Mental Load”[2].

On the other hand, housework is often also viewed as something almost unnecessary – sometimes characterised as only important to highly strung individuals who must have everything ‘just-so’. But this is just another way we stigmatise the topic – it’s partly a result of the way we as a society have belittled the work traditionally done by women and, conversely, belittled women for doing! As a society we see paid work as more important. But letting women into the world of work isn’t enough to resolve sexual inequality – we need to change how and why we value different kinds of work. Having a career you enjoy and that provides is important – equally, housework, particularly for busy families, is crucial – without it, there is no clean laundry or nutritious meals, or playdates or clean, hygienic surfaces (something we’ve all gained a new appreciation for recently!).

The fact is housework is very hard! It’s such a challenging, multi-faceted collection of tasks that it barely makes sense to lump them all together under a single heading. They are all activities which, contribute to making your house a healthy, welcoming and comforting place for you and your family. So, let’s start talking about this work – and more than that – let’s start celebrating it.

Who does the hoovering in your house? With so many of us confined to our homes, housework is more important than ever – tell us your lockdown, housework stories.


[1] https://www.theguardian.com/education/2020/may/12/womens-research-plummets-during-lockdown-but-articles-from-men-increase

[2] https://www.theguardian.com/world/2017/may/26/gender-wars-household-chores-comic

3 thoughts on “Who Does the Hoovering? The Importance of Housework

  • May 25, 2020 at 6:54 am
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    Hi Emily,

    Great post. Are things changing do you think? I was particularly taken by your comment on ‘things we buy children’. I know that growing up, my mum was overcome with the idea of not having a fixed idea over what children should or shouldn’t have, whereas my nan always have a very clear notion of what was for boys and what was for girls. To this day, I still have strong recollections of my nan openly disapproving whenever either of my sisters went to visit her wearing trousers! Having said that, my other nan, was the complete opposite, and very progressively-minded, so it’s clearly not so simple as saying it’s mainly older people who hold these quite traditional views.

    Having said all of that, I do wonder if certain attitudes in society are starting to change. I feel like there’s far less stigma now about a boy playing with a toy kitchen, or a girl with a dumper truck.

    Lots to unpack there!

    – Mike

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    • May 25, 2020 at 8:24 am
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      Thanks for your comment Mike – yes, I think things are changing but it seems to be a very slow change! I see a lot of kids being raised with very gender normative toys – girls always seem to have lots of pink thrust upon them when it comes to birthdays, for example. It seems like, while a lot of people don’t actually object to girls playing with toy cars and boys playing with makeup, they wouldn’t necessarily consider buying ‘girl’ toys for boys and ‘boy’ toys for girls. For example, I’ve never seen anyone buy a boy one of those makeup dolls designed for makeup practice or a baby doll. There seems to be a lot of unconscious bias. Girls tend to get very girly birthday parties as well with Disney princesses and face painting etc – learning that being beautiful in a dress with pretty makeup is the best way to get attention and praise. While boys have batman or cowboy-themed parties. Often, it seems, no one is saying “you are a boy/girl so you can’t have/do this!” but that’s the direction children are often pushed in and boys start to think of makeup, childcare and doing chores as ‘a girl thing’ while saving Gotham (doing things in the world outside the home!) is decidedly a ‘boy thing’.

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      • May 28, 2020 at 8:07 am
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        How much of a role do you think Disney has to play in all of this? I’m just thinking about the boom recently in more powerful female characters, and a shift in the general old-school useless Disney princess into being something a bit more independent and not adhering so much to the oldschool gender norms. I’m thinking in particular of Moana and the like, and then Wonder Woman etc in the super-hero world. With more ‘cool’ female princesses and super heroes I wonder if this toy thing will start to change more than it has in the past, and parents and grandparents would become more accepting these different types of toys.

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